"It's not all
about you!" Those words
caught my attention. They were simple, yet profound. Anti-modern, yet very
true. Rejected by many, but needed by all. Like salmon swimming upstream, they
go against the currents of today's individualistic philosophies. But they are
essential to relationships -- all types of relationships. They are a must for child
rearing, spouse caring, and political progress. Without them we will never get
the most out of life. Without them our families will become dysfunctional. The
government will become deadlocked. Our nation will become a never ending battleground
for every self-centered group, flooding the courts with lawsuits, social media
with propaganda, and the streets with protesters, all demanding their rights or
promoting their causes, with one over-arching goal: the accommodation of any
and all unrestrained, uninhibited, self-focused desires, wants, or wishes.
Some simple Google
searches, a few hours of media streaming, or a page or two of statistics will
bring several truths to light. It's already happening. Although not all, many
families are dysfunctional, fractured, and falling apart. Our government is
deadlocked to such a degree that voters don't care who they elect as president,
as long as he or she will shake up the status quo. Special interest groups are constantly
in the news and ever before us demanding their unreal rights, special
privileges, and unreasonable accommodations.
Call me an
alarmist. Brush me off as an extremist. Label me an old-fashioned, Biblical
literalist, who's living in the dark ages, but please don't ignore my words or the
current national and global events taking place, and especially, the storm
clouds that are gathering on the horizon. Our nation is headed down a dead end.
Our families are self-destructing. And time is running out.
If we fail
to embrace and employ these words and this principle, that it's not all about
us, the storm will descend, the devastation will occur, and we will become like
salmon that fail to swim against the current. No upstream journey equals no salmon
spawning. No spawning equals no salmon. If we silence these words and dispose
of this principle, our next generation will cease to exist, not as a people,
but as a functioning society -- as a democratic nation.
We need to
rediscover these words. We need to reinsert them into our vocabulary. We need
to embrace them mentally and display them physically. For the sake of our
children, they need to hear, we need to say, and all of us need to believe this
vital principle: "It's not all about you." And it's not. It's not all
about you, and it's not all about me, or anyone of us.
Bee
communities, ant colonies, and wolf packs -- all understand the benefit of
community and the dangers of individualism, but we highly evolved homo sapiens are
giving evidence of devolution. The values we once treasured and the principles
we once taught are now considered outdated and unacceptable.
We need to
right the ship and return to the basic building blocks of a well ordered
society. Why? Because it's not all about you or us. This also invoves the
church. We need to teach our children about God and tell them about Jesus' love
and sacrificial death, but that's not enough. If we fail to warn them about the
sinfulness of self-idolization, and effectively communicate to them the truth
of otherness, they will never become effective, positive, culture-change agents
that our world needs and all followers of Christ are meant to be. We are called
to be salt and light to a dark and sometimes bitter world. "You
are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its
saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown
out and trampled under people’s feet. You
are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden" (Matthew
5:13-14 ESV).
Our younger generation will never fulfill
God's desire for them if they don't embrace this truth. "Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit,
but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you
look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others" (Philippians
2:3-4 ESV).
Churches
divide, families split, and nations fall because they don't believe, teach, and
practice this truth: "It's not all about you." My generation
understood this. We had family chores, a family car, a party phone line, and
one TV shared by all. We didn't get trophies for sports participation, or
passing grades for just trying. My siblings and I didn't demand our way by
throwing an "I want that" temper tantrums or hold our breaths (my
cousin, however, used the breath-holding maneuver very effectively), to get our
way. If we did, we discovered the pain of uncontrolled emotions and unchecked
desires.
Ted Cunningham |
"It's
not all about you." These society-nurturing, future-preserving words, all-important
words, were spoken at the General Baptist Summit in Bowling Green, Kentucky, this
week by Ted Cunningham from Branson, Missouri. He's a pastor who's written
several books on marriage and child rearing. Ted emphasized the importance of
husbands and wives having alone time, despite the demands of raising children
who want all of our attention. He stressed the importance of dads and moms showing
their children that life is not all about them. They need to see that mom has a
special place in dad's eyes and dad has a special place in mom's eyes.
Children who
learn this principle won't grow up to be adult adolescents, wanting much, but
contributing little. Unfortunately, we already have a nation full of immature
adults in the form of demanding employees, constantly complaining customers,
and many unappreciative, but very incendiary citizens. We may be too late, but
if we don't at least try, we doom ourselves. We must try to lead our families
and friends to a state of other awareness. Be aware of the needs of others. Be
concerned about the needs of others. Be willing to help strangers along the
way. And most of all be willing to say that which the world fears and the
church must say: "It's not all about you."
In actuality,
the truth of the matter is -- it's not at
all about you or me. Mature Christians believe, and rightly so, that in the
big picture, life is not in the least bit about you or me. It's all about Jesus. We make the most of life and get the most out
of life when we come to understand that Jesus is what life is all about.
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